When the Going Gets Tough
Monday, August 19, 2013 at 7:25PM
Judy Schmidt, Executive Coach

The tough get going.  In other words, when the situation becomes difficult, the people who are strong, become fully engaged.

That being said, I'm all for a good dose of complaining and blaming and whining.  It's a temporary feel good.  Quite temporary, but feels good none the less, and when you're through with that strategy, you can move on to a strategy that gets you closer to what you've been aiming for.  Key words....what you're aiming for.  What are you aiming for?  If you knew for sure that you'd be able to get through this rough patch, what do you want to have on the other side?

I have to remind myself of what I'm aiming for daily, because if I don't, and if I'm in a tough spot, I can easily forget why I'm doing what I'm doing and what's most important about it .I take on a mindset that I end up regretting.  A mindset that leads nowhere fun and nowhere meaningful and definately not  productive.  So I urge you to be tough and set your own standard and create a culture for yourself where growth and creativity can flourish.  It doesn't happen overnight, but when you are fully engaged, even during tough times, you will make choices that you will be proud of.  You'll also inspire and influence others to do the same.

So here's my suggestions for what to do when the going gets tough:

  1. Answer the question, what am I aiming for?  What am I aiming for this week?   What am I aiming for this year?  What am I aiming for in the next 10 years?  What am I aiming for in the next 20 years. This will re-orient your thinking from everything that's wrong to what's possible.  If you need help with this, hit reply to this email and ask me for a worksheet that I use in my coaching practise.   
  2. Think of one thing you can do today that will take you in that direction, and do it.  It doesn't have to be a gigantic step forward.  Just one step forward.  The "doing" is not always the easy part but it is the necessary part.  Without it, you are not "going" anywhere.  Know that you are more capable than you think!  

"Life's ups and downs provide windows of opportunity to determine your values and goals. Think of using all obstacles as stepping stones to build the life you want."  

Marsha Sinetar

 


 

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